You'll Never Truly Be Ready...

I haven't gotten personal on this little blog in a while.... so here it goes...

Thankfully, we haven't felt any pressure from either side of our family to have a baby which is really surprising since we've been married for almost 3 and 1/2 years. At first our plan was to wait a year after the wedding to start trying... then we wanted to be in our house for a year... and then it was I want to wait until after this vacation and that vacation. I've heard it over and over again... you will never really feel ready and there will always be excuses and no one is getting any younger over here.

Something HUGE hit me the other day... the longer WE wait the less time our kids will have with their grandparents and that breaks my heart. My grandparents were such a huge part of my life and I can't imagine it any other way.

..... but what if I never get my body back after working so hard to get to my ideal healthy weight?

......but what will I do when my friends are still out having a good time and I'm too exhausted/nauseous from being pregnant to even think about tagging along even though I can no longer drink?

..... how will traveling be while pregnant?

..... will I really never be able to sleep in again?

..... is it really going to put the kibosh on our sex life?

..... will I really have to give up caffeine? Girlfriend lives for her cup of yummy goodness in the morning!

..... how will Roxy react to a new baby and no longer being the princess of the house?

But you know what will trump all of that?! 

..... the unconditional love we'll both feel for our little bundle of joy

..... seeing H holding our baby for the 1st time

..... seeing the joy on our parent's faces when they see their grandchild for the 1st time

..... raising and helping to mold that beautiful baby into an amazing person

..... a little itty bitty adorable mini-version of H and I combined

..... decorating the nursery!

..... dinners out without a huge bar bill. It'll be nice to not be paying more for booze than for food on date nights

..... knowing that the baby was part of God's perfect plan for our lives

I guess the moral of the story is no one is ever truly ready and there will always be what if's but the what will be's totally outweigh them. 


  1. I love the honesty in this post! I was worried about the same things but let me tell you a few...

    1. I gained 25 pounds and lost 54 nursing... so it was even better than before baby in that sense :)
    2. None of my friends have kids and I feel left out/jealous sometimes but when I do actually get a chance to get out, all I want to do is get back home to my baby. It's a love like nothing else and once you have it, you don't want anything else.
    3. Let it happen how it's supposed to! My husband and I "didn't try but didn't prevent" for only two weeks and at the end of that two weeks I was like nope, not ready. But by then it was too late. We were MEANT to get pregnant then and there and I truly believe that.

    Good luck! xo

  2. Oh, Kate I'm LOVING this post! Pregnancy, marriage, relationship- anything really- it's hard to figure out the "right" time for things- but you're right there is not perfect timing and we'll never be completely ready. Thanks for sharing this! I really enjoyed it...and I know that when you and H have a baby it's going to be amazing!!!

  3. I love this post. I felt the same way as you and had the same thoughts. I was NOT ready for babies but my hubs and I decided to "not try, not prevent" and within a few weeks, we had a baby on the way. I thought that I would be missing things at first, but you know what? Literally the only thing I have had to give up is wine and beer. I can still run my 5Ks and lift weights, drink my morning cup of coffee and go out for sushi. Some people don't ever get sick (me! yay!) in the first trimester and my midwives trust my judgment with my health. I know things will be a little different when baby gets here, but so many of the things we do now, we can do with a little one in tow and it will be amazing to raise a mini me or mini hubs. I'll also be making it a mission to get back in shape after s/he is here.

  4. this is a really good post kate. I am not ready for kids. I think. but there are so many worries I have that if I do wait, it will mean that they won't really have grandparents. its hard to not think about it. but i am so enjoying the time i have now.

  5. I love the honesty of this post! You're right, there's really no PERFECT time to have a baby. It will rock your world but in the BEST way possible :)

  6. Oh how I love this. I am on the same page as you with this. Glad I'm not alone! Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the baby topic! =)

  7. Great post! I think almost all of us have these thoughts before having a baby... Heck, I had some of these thoughts when I found out we were pregnant with #2! But I wouldn't trade any of it for the world. I think change is hard no matter what it involves... What I always look back and realize is that if I was worried about those things before, then I will probably always worry about them-- and strive to be the person that I want to be- whether there is a baby in the picture or not. You'll figure it out. What is meant to be will be... Best of luck!

  8. I am in love with this post!!! I love your sincerity. Thanks for sharing. :) I am ready for a b-a-b-y ;) ;)

  9. Kate I am so glad to see this post as this is something DH and I have been discussing as well. Am I quite nervous for all of the change, am I nervous how it will affect out relationship? Of course! But am I completely excited for this next step? Definitely!

    1. That's exactly how we feel as well, it's a scary feeling but so exciting :)

  10. Kate - your last sentence sums it up! If I had the choice I would have started having kids earlier - despite all the craziness and adjusting they bring to life, the way it grows you as a person, gives you perspective on what is really important in life and just honestly gives you a continue source of happiness is well worth all the things you may or may not have to give up. Love this post. Thank you for linking up for the Fall Fancy today!